Sep 19, 2016

Celebrating Freedom Day 10

Whoot Whoot! Day 10!#10DBC #freedomplan

I completed the challenge! I am very proud of myself for keeping a ten day streak.

Day 10 Challenge: I want you to think back to the journey you’ve been on in the last 10 days. I encourage you to read through all your posts to celebrate all that you’ve written, learned and experienced as part of this daily blog challenge. And in today’s blog post, I want you to write about:

  • What you enjoyed most about your experience of taking part in the blog challenge

  • Your favorite challenge day and why

  • The biggest takeaway you’ve had from it

  • The next step you’re going to take to make your freedom plan a reality

What I enjoyed most about my experience with this Blog Challenge;

When trying to find new innovative things to write about, and stay within modern times, this can be challenging in itself. I enjoyed reviewing other peoples blogs to see what I was missing and learning different styles and new technology. I love education, and I feel this challenge was a actual class to build on, thanks to Natalie Sisson, I was able to complete it. I also enjoyed reviewing my own brain and what's in there, stepping outside the box. I really enjoyed the podcast from Natalie every morning with my coffee, I felt like I had a personal coach.

My favorite challenge was Day 6- Who is living the life I want and who are my superhero's. I did write about people in my local community who are inspiring to me, and received amazing comments and personal thanks, and how can I help. I wrote about my two superstars, and then I wrote them and told them I wrote about them, Seth Godin actually sent me a personal email!

What I didn't elaborate on was the superhero's I was thinking about while writing the challenge.
My Amazing mother with her wit and creative mind. My amazing sons, who have grown so much in their personal accomplishments, my adoring husband. My husbands family who have accepted me as their own. These are my own superhero's I think about on a daily basis. This challenge has given me gratitude for what I have and who I have in my life.

The biggest takeaway -The biggest takeaway from this challenge is the lessons learned, to stay motivated and work on things everyday. To put this in action is the big takeaway, not just dream it, but work on it everyday. I loved getting my imagination going again, talking about it and feeling like I'm going to take action.

The Next Step to make my freedom plan a reality!

The next step for me besides winning this challenge and going to Bali, and having the best time of my life, is focus every day. Stick to My Successful Day Plan every day, write new challenges and goals for myself.

I highly recommend this 10 blog challenge for anyone! It has opened new doors for me and gotten me to believe in myself again. Thank You Natalie Sisson for making this happen!

Gvixen Signing off for the evening, stay tuned for great things about to happen.

Sep 18, 2016

Day 9 #10DBC #freedomplan : Location Independance

Good Morning Cameno!#10DBC #freedomplan

Day 9 Natalie's Sisson's 10 day Blog Challenge;  To  Imagine you are on a long holiday in Portugal (or wherever your dream destination is). There are castles to explore, secret bars to discover, and sunny beaches to laze around on. In today’s post, I want you to write about how you will balance your adventure and work while you are away on this holiday.

My Holiday: I have booked an Air BNB on a family vineyard, the place is on a cliff buff, and below is the very blue ocean, this is in Spain. I must feed the farm animals as its part of the stay, this includes chickens, goats, a few sheep. The schedule requires a early rise, to take care of the animals. The family has left me with some names of locals to meet, so that I can get a feel of the culture.

I wake up to the humid air and ocean breeze, I have decided to convert my two hours of exercise into caring for the hobby farm, put this into the plan, as to not disrupt my routine. I am finished the grunt work by 9am, and am able to squeeze a hour in on my laptop, before venturing out into the town. I have a portable iPad to record  anything from my adventure into my work. This trip I had networked to meet a few ladies to give a talk on what I am doing.

After meeting the town and checking things out, I am invited to go on a small sail trip. I jump at the opportunity. The sail trip includes dinner and wine.

After a amazing day, I spend a hour winding down, checking my online company, few emails- and call it a night. Tomorrow I decide is a day of photography, maybe get down some writing about Spain.

What I've been thinking about during this challenge is how to make this a reality, and I have somewhat started this already. For the next 6 to 8 months I will have the time to explore my options on my work. While on Vacation. I have never taken a vacation any longer than 7 to 14 days, now I am on a extended amount of vacation.  I have been in Bellingham for about 6 weeks. Every week end has been a adventure of sorts in different areas of Washington.

For the last year it has been travel after travel, Northern BC, California, Oregon, All across the states. During this time my communications have stayed the same for the most part.

What I hope to have is a company that will generate on its own, and a Tribe who will keep me accountable and in check. I hope to have my own passion as part of my work.

Upcoming Trip: The next 10 months will be focusing on a extended trip to Africa, to work with a school in Tanzania, most importantly we hope to generate a few things in place before we go. My routine for the morning will stay the same in any location I am in. I am adaptable that way. My Bulk Day of work hopefully will be incorporated into that vacation, meeting people, being local. We have talked about living 6 months of the year in another destination, and in about 2 to 5 years hope to accomplish a homestead of sorts.

If I am able to learn the strong building blocks for generating income while abroad via, and adjust my time schedules, I will accomplish what I had hoped. I love to write about my experiences and people I have met along the way. I am ready and excited to start everything fresh!

Just writing in this blog challenge has got me in tuned with the work ahead. I am so grateful!
Closing photos of cabin escape on Cameno Island.

Gvixen Signing off, looking forward to the last day of our challenge tomorrow!

Sep 17, 2016

My Day Adventure-Trying something I have never done!

Day 8 Challenge:#10DBC #freedomplan 
The Challenge From Natalie Sisson : Like I said, today is a fun day. So I want you to go out and do something that you’ve wanted to do for a long time. Go out play, enjoy, and come back and write about what you did. Also, write about how you can make such adventures part of your new lifestyle.

Life is about adventures and stepping out of your comfort zone. This weekend I was to spend it on Cameno Island, celebrating a 10 year anniversary and my birthday with close family. My husband will be away on my actual birthday.

I explained that I had this blog challenge, and that I had to create a adventure. I was surprised!

My husband recently bought a bike, and his cousin (brother) bought 3 bikes. We have agreed that myself and my husbands cousin wife would be riding by March 2017, classes are  set up for the end of September. So this weekend, my brother in law surprised me!  with bringing some bikes he had just recently bought. In hopes the women would get on them. Today is stormy, tomorrow will be a nice day.

Today the goal was to get me in the gear and on the bike, with a lesson on throttle, clutch gears, brake.
I have NEVER ridden a bike, I have gotten on the back of one, once. I have ridden a moped several times.
Life is about stepping outside your comfort zonee. Life is also short, live it to the fullest! Here are a few Videos of the gear try on, and the lesson!
Super exciting! These bikes are HUGE! LOL

Unfortunately I could not connect the clips into one.

The more you experience in life, the more you will feel accomplished and whole, today was a great day! I continue to live adventures on a monthly basis. Sometimes adventure can be in your very own back yard, maybe you have never painted before or gardened, maybe you think you have zero skill...but all of this is trial and error, give it a shot! You may be happy with the results.

Well there's my post for the evening, Hopefully the videos post!
Carry On, Be Happy, Make Adventures!
GVix Signing off!

Sep 16, 2016

Imperfect Action

For today’s challenge I want you to pick one imperfect action that you can take every day that will move you closer to the life you have envisioned. It could be 5 minutes of walking or meditation, or even just continuing the momentum of this challenge and keep writing 200 words a day on your blog. Pick that one imperfect action and write a post about why you chose the particular action and what you imagine it will be like if you do it every day for the next 30 days.#10DBC #freedomplan

I wish it could be as simple as those three words, I guess it really can be that simple.

My Procrastination:

I have the ability, to leave things, to know where I left off on each thing,  by the end of the day its all squared away. You guessed it, Squirrel- I have ADD. I am the best multitasker there is, I do pay attention to detail as well, everything is neatly organized, just partly unfinished.

My Overwhelm:

The fear of success been a evil seed in my being for many years. After being in this challenge it is apparent to me, that my entire blog and website needs a complete overhaul, this is  overwhelming.

So here's what I have been doing since this challenge, after the day is finished at night.

Go to word press
Pick a template
start the new template,
look for the template
look at my old website
wonder where the stuff came from on my old website
look at other peoples websites
leave it.
go back to net flicks.

This challenge has sparked me to just get back to writing again, almost like the journaling I used to do every morning.

The plan for me starting this Monday, is to get clear and make use of the trail and ocean by my apartment. To Follow the steps of my successful day.

This will be the very first thing of the day. I do feel focused and ready for the day after exercise.

I then set slots of time for writing and my web page. If I can stick to the plan, I should have a amazing website and accomplished more than I imagined.

The Successful, Perfect Day
  • Exercise
  • Write
  • Web page Work
  • Get out there- Make Things Happen
  • Husband Time
  • My Time
I decided my imperfect action will be similar to my husbands. I will journal. 10 minutes of gratitude, 365 days. I choose this imperfect action for so many reasons, mostly this imperfect action will help me remember the great journey I pasted, and the new adventure I have begun.

Thanks For Visiting!
GVixen Signing off

Sep 15, 2016

Finding Your Tribe

Day 6: Find 1 or 2 people who are living the kind of life you want to live, and whose tribe you’d love to be part of. Then write a short post about why you find them inspiring and the one question you would ask them if you met in real life.#10DBC #freedomplan

This was a challenge indeed! In this challenge we have to go beyond Natalie, reach for the stars,  I have my 3 superstars; Natalie, Seth Godin and Brené Brown .  I have my home town mentors and superstars to me personally, originally all from Vancouver BC.  Then I have my closest family and my new community. The larger Tribe the better I say!

The Number One Person I'd Have In My Tribe, is Natalie Sisson.

I have been following this lovey women since she launched her book! I was at one point, so close in meeting Natalie at a book signing, but I never made it.  I have asked Natalie questions in the past, will you write a blurb in my book. I have asked questions over the years, that most people ask Natilie.

I downloaded The Suitcase Entrepreneur on my old laptop years ago, and the laptop died! I got about two chapters into the book before this happened. I now have the book on order.
If I met Natalie in person, my first question would be, "Do you want to get a glass of wine?" Then I would ask probably all the questions people have already asked her. I do have one sort of question.  When I was in Vancouver and going to all the big entrepreneur seminars at the Pan Pacific, Did you go to those? Those multi level marketing events, or with the panel of women who speak events? Did you feel that any of that was worth your time? At the end of it all, its a massive sales pitch.   I would also ask, besides the people who buy online, how do you find where you want to go and what you want to do? Do you say, "I think Id like to give a speech in France?" Who does your back office, All the general questions. I would then ask,  if she could join  me, not in a surf lesson, but a dive lesson with Jason Sugar in Isla Mujeres. Natalie you are inspirational to me because of how you approach your audience in your podcasts. Simple, helps any type of person, and I always hear something new. Amazing speaker. You'd have to be in my Tribe.

Seth Godin-I love the mini books Seth has written, the easy small books where you can just pick up the book and have instant gratification. If I met Seth, I would ask him how much research did he have to do on his own to make this happen. How many and who were in his tribe? I have been a sheepwalker for a long time, letting my dreams sit in the belly of my gut- After I started reading Seth's books, I felt like I had instant intelligence. This is a inspiration to me to know that gradual is not always that important, simple clean information. I really love Seth's books! I feel like I have taken some accountability for my life. My question to Seth would be, I a nut shell to the above, please, share your secrets.

Brené Brown

Always good to have a professor, on your tribe, especially one that has done research. What's better than to awaken your day with a great quote.  Brené Bown, has spent the past thirteen years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. Well there you have it, Self help is always good to have on the tribe, If I met , Brené I would ask for a personal coach session and one of her books signed and given to me, if you don't ask you will never know. There is a reason you help others, always. The whole basis of what Brené teaches is a inspiration to me.

My local Mentors who I haven't seen in over 15 to 20 years and are Livin the Life! Of My Dreams!

Jason Sugar

Jason Sugar had a small dive shop in New Westminster BC on Diving, his dream was to be a diving coach and more, what appealed to me most was his coarse: First Breath. I have a deep water fear and wanted to take the coarse, but he had up and moved to paradise. He is living his dream and I support his media everywhere. He welcomed me to take the coarse at a discounted rate, however I would of had to fly to his remote Island, Isla Mujeres.  My question to Jason if I ever saw him again, would be will I ever get over my fear of deep water? and he would say, Yes. Sometimes fear goes deeper into our souls- I am sure that would be something that Jason could pull out of me if I made it out to have a coach session.

So if you ever want to visit Isla Mujeres, Jason sugar is your man, below are some great photos from Jason's page. I truly know I will one day be taking First Breath. The fact that Jason took a risk, and decided this is the life he was going to have, is a true inspiration to me.

Frances Hui

Frances was a event planner way back in the day.  I went to most of her events, they were fun, mostly business related where you could give out your cards and social network. Frances has really kicked up her heels and now has her own company and has been in several magazines in Vancouver. I recently connected with Frances, and If she does indeed decide to come have lunch with me, I have a million questions; "Whose in your love life?" "What's the word?" "How did this all happen? " "Who did you approach?" The list would go on, why? because she is actually a girlfriend Id like to know better. Frances Hui, wasn't a sell out- she believed in herself and encourages women everywhere on business.

Lyndi Barret- Style Calling Magazine.

Lyndi and I go way back, Lyndi was a production assistant for Vancouver Fashion Week and I was a manager and makeup artist of a million dollar counter in downtown Vancouver, I decided to go to fashion school and had created vintage scarfs you could wear about 20 different ways, so that, not just skinny girls could wear them, but also pregnant women and BBW women. Lyndi decided to put me in the show. I met with her quite a few times during that year and knew she wanted to be a editor of a fashion magazine. Well 20 years later on my facebook she has risen to that title.  Lyndi just got back from New York, she illustrates fresh clean attire.  If I would see her again, I would be ready , maybe with something I designed, and ask her to put my design in her magazine. Designing again...oh the thought, its there- I hoped to have my own label- Anything is possible. I would also ask Lyndi to get me a seat at New York Fashion Week with her. Lyndi spent years of hard work before she got her shot, and the jobs leading up to her great career were not great, some of them I believe she didn't even get paid. Most of Vancouver Fashion Week back in the day was volunteer hours, I also worked for free as a makeup artist at the events, long hours. Blood Sweat and Tears, but she never gave up and saw her vision the entire time.

All these people above are huge mentors for me, I also have mentors right here in my own town who support me and would help me start what I want to do.

The big shots are Natalie Sisson hands down and Seth Godin, Brené Brown, for Marketing, feedback on marketing my business in a professional way and also helping me with a book, streamlining to specifics.  The steps to do it right!  This challenge is providing me with a wealth of knowledge, and also its a wake up call to get things moving again.

Who would be my tribe?

For the next 6 months: My Husband, Wild Bird Foundation. The Wild Bird Foundation is a small group of men, all colorful and different who want to make a change in our community, one being my husband. They started a non profit organization, the first is dealing with homelessness here in the community, I hold a part in working with dreams,  of single moms in crisis. I hope to write a story on a few of the people involved in this group.

My group of girlfriends who always give me support and ideas, back in Vancouver.

I have recently networked with a new group of women in Bellingham, one is a graphic designer, I was going to invite her for lunch and see what her thoughts are, some are artists. One women I worked with recently, Yvette Newman
 is a well known artist, marketing her own Art.  I won a 3 day scholarship to her studio, it was very amazing. Her story will be on my blog after the challenge. I will be talking to her more about marketing and networking in my area.

Well that's my Tribe! I hope to at some point have some of these amazing people join me in my journey. This was a longer blogpost than I thought, I just didn't want to leave the very most important mentors to me out of this challenge.

GVixen Signing Out

Sep 14, 2016

Day 5 Challange: Daily Success Plan, I 2 3..GO

Good Morning!#10DBC #freedomplan
Day 5 Challenge: Create a daily success plan for yourself that takes only 15-20 minutes and schedule a time in the day where you can squeeze it in. Write a blog post about what you will do, when you will do it, and how it will get you closer to your dreams.
I am going to be real here, I am not a morning person during that lovely time of month that meets women every 28 days, in fact it is during this time, where time stops for me. However. We are on a Challenge here, A Life Change...giddy up and here we go. 1,2,3...GO

Well, I have a lot of time on my hands, kids are grown up, husband works all day, I've committed to a few things for myself which has not really been done yet- It is hard to release 25 years of stress to be quite honest. You may think what the hell is she complaining about? When your body runs on stress 24/7, the body needs time to heal. I have been tired, fatigued. Scattered.

A typical day in past, was prep my meals in evening, up at 6am, eat, small workout, go to job one, dealing with trauma based children,then job two, outreach worker, home by 8-10pm, eat, do my agenda for the next day, possibly stay up late and write. One day a week with the boyfriend, Sundays volunteer at the YMCA, take a small coarse was thrown in there, meet with friends one day a week, check up on my mother and son. One day visit with my grandson, run on for two weeks, then pay bills, worry about bills not paid, and go the next two weeks. I had a office that was full of bright agendas and creative things in the works that never got done. I worried about a lot of people in my life.

Currently, there is no time schedule, no office, no work. I cannot go to Canada,  so I cannot visit mother son, kids. Not until my dual citizenship is complete. My largest concern right now, is working on my health, my mindset and looking after things for my husband until I do return to work, playing with the cats. I can volunteer, and have chosen a few- but not yet. Yup pretty sweet right? I am trying to become unconditioned to my past stressful life- it is very hard. It is like a homeless person winning the lottery.

The New Daily Success Plan

A)I will dedicate 2  hours to fitness in the morning. 6am to 8am, run meditate, yoga gym. It would be really helpful, if a few of my girlfriends would call me at 6am- Lets see who responds to that, and after two hours also- to see that I've done it.

B) I will set aside, 25 minutes of writing, 8-830- No one call me at this time. Finish one book. I have several that have started, I have not looked at my work for over 8 months.

C) One hour to work on my website.  9-10am- I have done zero marketing here in Bellingham. I will be working on this for that one hour. I also need to feed into my media outlets when the website is complete, advertise. .

D) The bulk of the day: 10-3pm
I am not allowed to work in the states yet, I can volunteer my services as  research for my company. I can also volunteer for my husbands company, where I will be working with young mothers in crisis, and other areas of need in Watcom County.

My consultations are free, "For a 6 month time period if you are the right candidate, I am offering you free service! Meet with me today...smiley face."

Therefore I now have several "free Consultations" in my email, I will pick 1 interviews and consult. I will schedule them. I will dedicate a 2 hour window, to talk on the phone, hopefully meet up. Working on my own, or my husbands company.

Getting Clear on what I do; I organize peoples lives. Its as simple as that- In slots of time, from home to lifestyle, clearer vision on dreams, wellness, fitness. This can be done anywhere. The physical organization is contracted out, which quite often is the home. The Management organization can be done from anywhere.

E) 5pm-8pm is spend on my husband, dinner, a walk- talking
F) 9-10 My time if I choose, reading research, more writing. Art is important to me, so 2 days a week is a art day.

There is a lot in the daily plan that I have not worked out yet, meal prep (its a big deal, type 2 diabetes and my husbands an athlete) Social time, My husband has a massive social arena- due to his title.

I feel this is a good start, I just need to start it. I think Monday is a good time. I will keep you posted on how it all goes. I think if I stick to this time schedule, I will feel like I have routine in my day, I will feel accomplished. I have never worked solely for myself, with my own interests at heart. I have tried to fit my own business in, on top of all my jobs, probably why it failed.

I have always served others. I realize over the years, there are parts of this that are me. I am a caregiver and I enjoy helping peoples lives.

I have had to break down the different areas of what I like to do. Do I like to work for a union, 9-5 and do personal care and whatever it takes to give a person quality of life? No, that time has passed. That was called burn out. I do however love working with men and women who want to make change and are willing to work with me to really change there life into a life of wellness. I do like creating beauty in chaos. I love finding out that a person is willing to try new things, and find things about themselves they never realized. I love problem solving. I love relationships with people.

This is what I love.

GVixen Signing off for the day!

Sep 13, 2016

Superpowers, We All Have Them-

Day 4 Unlocking Your Superpowers
10 Day Blog Challenge#10DBC #freedomplan

Today's challenge is to write about my Superpowers!

Some Superpowers

Superpower-Hello! story teller, yes that's me,  creative writing, love to write about Adventures!
At one point my blog reached 150K readers, So I must of been interesting, Let's be real here, mostly just flat out funny enough to keep people interested.  I love to take what I know or where I have been,  and write about it, or the people I meet, that have a effect on me.

The truth is about this Superpower is,  yes I am able to write about any topic, or thing at the drop of a hat, that does not mean its good. I want this Superpower to now be refined, and elegant. This means I will need to change my entire blog. A New Website, This will be Amazing!

Superpower-I absolutely have a gift with people, less fortunate, vulnerable people, children and youth and adults. Regular People, anyone really, homeless people, people with addictions.
People with stress and worry...I have 20 years banked in helping and serving others, and I've made differences in peoples lives, people have made a difference in my life.

Superpower-Creativity, It my own method of learning and teaching others, Go outside the BOX! I love a great challenge ,problem solving with a creative mindset. I can take a complex problem and break it down to mini steps.
What do I like to do?
I love nature and adventure- most times I want to share my adventures with everyone else.
I love to take a experience and photo bomb it and write about it.
I love to organize, spaces, peoples agenda's, efficiency.
I love to travel, Paint, do art, be outside.
In past, one of my many jobs, I loved working with hoarding situations, yes I did that. I loved it because once the mess was gone there was a clean slate to re stage a home, and re stage someones life. If they  were ready to do it and do the steps and process to get it done.

What other people say about me, my husband said I'm invisible, things magically get put into place. I am great with people.
My friends say I am a hard worker, I listen, am compassionate.
Recently, I was talking with a mother of 6 children, we are going to have her give a talk about her life at a non profit group- our group, to help mothers in crisis. After the meeting was almost to a close, I suggested to her;
Make a list of 10 things you want, 10 things you need, and 10 things you will have. ( A promise to yourself) Break it down to 5, for each,  Use this for your speech. The social worker called after the meeting and said I was amazing. I felt really good about it. In some situations I will use a visual tool to get this across as well.
Wherever this takes me, my profession will be with people and making changes. I love to create, so I will have that also, and I love to teach.

I don't like to sell. This is my weak link- I would like to get to a place where things just sell themselves because what I have to offer is so amazing.

Sep 12, 2016

Creating A Vision- The Perfect Day-

Day 3- 10 Day Blogging Challenge-#10DBC #freedomplan

The Perfect Day -

I am to write my perfect day,  how I envision the perfect day to be. So here goes.

I wake up and have a good snuggle with my husband. I actually get up today, because I had a great sleep and it is 6am, I love to be always the crazy one, so we would argue on fat reduced breakfast or fattening pancakes...Since I have moved to the states, I feel like I'm on the road to rich food, and lard ass. I truly believe I have been skinny my whole life because I was starving.

After all that is done, Id hit my trail for a short run. The trail is enclosed in ancient old trees, and it is quiet, I see bunnies and deer along my run, as well as other joggers. The trail opens up to the ocean with a boardwalk, along there are little beach embankments that are most often empty, I sit by the water and do meditation and a 15 minute Yoga, to stretch out my muscles.
Kind of similar to Natalie Sisson, but that's what I used to do, never on a trail, and never by the ocean.  I was in a better frame of mind when I disciplined myself. So I need to utilize the fact that I have a gorgeous trail and ocean in front of my apartment.

I then would have a appointment with my physical trainer, this could be at a gym, outdoors or life coach.
10am, I would then go home and spend one to two hours on writing, and checking my email and setting my goals for the day.

Noon would be a meeting and lunch, possibly a brain storm on marketing ideas or research, with my amazing group of people who have joined me in work.

I would spend the rest of the afternoon, seeing people till about 3pm. This may include new locations, appointments, research, so forth.

4pm I'm in my Art Studio, for a hour. This is just a little house for now, surrounded by gardens. My Art studio is where I do all my own illustrations and marketing, my graphic artist may come by today to work with me over some tea. I am learning how to take sketches and canvas to computer, this is a must for my original work, and I have not learnt it yet. I also am learning how to utilize my photos and videos on my website.

Dinner time is made and spent with my husband, afterward we always watch the sunset with a short hike or walk.

We talk about our day and plan the week, and decide on our own adventures, this includes our community and projects we are working on. Currently we are on a homeless project in Bellingham, 751 homeless people, currently, with a high ratio of youth. We are researching projects in our community to be of help.

We also are involved in a soccer school for boys in Tanzania, and help in fundraising and creating sustainable income for the boys, the founder of this company, started teaching the boys how to build things, first chicken coops, doors and now guitars. So we are always thinking of ideas for new projects for our dear friend and hope to make a second trip, me included this time!

 I have launched my website and am working on a book. We may chat about the latest work. Talk about what we will work on.

We live 4-6 months away, from our home base, so we take a hour to discuss our next 6 months, or section of it. Our location is in tropical area, we have a small space there, this allows us to work in other countries, where we can do research and liaison internationally.

The last hours of the day, are spent reading a good book nuzzled up with my sweetie and our sweet cats at the foot of the bed.  May include some "Sexy Time", but the cats have to leave if that happens.

Soon we will have Napoleon, he will be here in a few years, he is a French bulldog and will be a character in a children's series I am working on.

 My little pug ( her name was fat sushi) passed away two years ago, she was my life companion, so we have agreed on a dog. After the travelling, or he may just very well come with.

I am pretty content, I gotta say. This is my perfect day!

Sep 11, 2016

Rediscovering Your Why-

Day 2 of the 10 day blog Challenge.

What is Freedom to Me? Why Do I want to live a life of freedom and how will this impact the lives of others, or how do I think it will?#10DBC #freedomplan

Sometimes when you scream to the universe that things are just not working, things happen. I get grief all the time from friends, why do you broadcast your life on line? I had one person stat that I was embarrassing talking about how broke I was, how life was just a shit show in Vancouver, I wrote several Posts called, 365 Days Rent Free, as a Suitcase Boarder.  I had just given up and refused to pay rent any longer for a year.  I put this in my blog to the universe and instantly my life changed. There is one difference, that people over look about me and hardships. I am a survivor, I am positive, and I know that it will always work out- ALWAYS. I banned relationships of any kind with men, I was fed up in that department also.

Friends opened their doors, I put things in storage, I worked odd jobs, Canada Post, Outreach , Contract jobs- Pure Freedom. I realized I didn't need my stuff. I was able to clear my head without having the demands of rent and utilities, my stuff, my all just cleared away. I was able to really put my heart into helping people I was working with rather than worry about my own crap.
I realized, people loved me, they were willing to put me up in their homes, with zero expectations.

So the above statement was how my life started to shift. I started to involve myself in world events, Soccer for Tanzania, where I could do something. This is how I met my life partner. I now am in the process of immigration and I have a year where I cannot work, my stress is completely gone, my debt in Canada has been reduced from methodically conquering one bill at a time. I am able to explore options, my  life partner who indeed found me through a event, supports me in everything I do. I now have a team player. My entire life I have served others, its what I do- I feel the universe gave back.

The best part is my partner is now looking into .."What's Next?" 30 years in the police force, he randomly decided to get his MBA, open a non -profit company with 4 men, started doing men's retreats. 

My life right now is freedom,  I love my life! If you don't have a partner, this doesn't matter- I really believed in something, I believed in myself, I believed that I was not living a life I wanted any longer, it was a full year before I met my partner. If you do things for you, give back to the world, people find you, people want to do whatever it is you are doing- This is the first step; to freedom, to love to financial freedom, to dreams.

I can now work towards something all my own and share it with the world. I want to publish a few books, I want to coach people on how to have a life of wellness, the people who were in the rat race like I was, thinking you have to live to work, not work to live and adding your passions into your life, and having time to do it!

Freedom to me is living by your own terms, creating sustainable income that is yours, making you green print on earth, giving back and receiving, gratitude, graciousness.#10DBC #freedomplan

I need to be worldly, meaning travel- to give back, and most importantly to know what is in the world, be humbled by it.

I had written a book on grief that is a comedy, I sent a chapter review to a psychologist, who I previously worked with in my field. He simply stated, this book needs to be completed, it will be a great addition to a different side on how people deal with grief, he also met with me several times in relation to my blog, my work, stating that I need to get my program clear. I believe that I do need to finish and complete. I stop and start things, not this year!

GVix Signing Off...Keep Blogging!

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 1

Good Morning All,

#10DBC #freedomplan

Its been quite sometime since I have written, I am writing from my little sun room in Fairhaven, Bellingham Washington over looking the water in my new home, and new life!

I have had writers block for a time now, mostly because Just A Gurl Blog was mostly about dating in Vancouver, my opinions, local people and trends.. I have had quite a shift in life, and have joined writing groups, art groups here in Fairhaven to try to find a new revamped blog and lifestyle. This will take some time, In the meantime, I have decided to join Natalie Sisson's 10 day blog challenge.
I was following Natalie way back when she came out with her book, which I loved and I was to join a 30 day challenge, however working to live, struggling in Vancouver always left me too busy to find time for anything. Most times I wrote late at night with several glasses of wine, stressed out due to not being able to sleep, the outcome was a very funny blog, now its time to get serious! So here we Go!

Finding Your Focus

Day 1 Challenge: Take some time to think about your biggest challenges, then list down 2-3 of them and write a few lines about why you think they are holding you back.

Time Management- This was always my challenge, I now have an extraordinary amount of free time, while not saving the world of coarse, however in my brain, which is somewhat ADD, I tend to take on too much at once, I feel that if I make myself overloaded, I can refuse emotions or situations that may be difficult for me to address ( there are many) I need to quiet my brain.

Technical Difficulty- I am pretty media savvy, however when it comes to technical writing, I have difficulty, I most times have several editors on my back list when I have to do something professional- girlfriends , professional people all review most important documentation. This is because I am a exceptional Creative Writer and I write before I think, I think quickly and miss details quite often.

What Will I Be When I Grow Up? I have had my hand in almost every career possible, the longest is education, mental health & disabilities. I have always written and done art on the side. What brings me joy? I opened up my own company for a year, I gained 6 clients- I organized their life. In every way possible. I mean, mentally and physically- I redid their homes, I managed every hour of their day, I set new goals and expectations, I held them accountable. All were a success. I earned a sustainable income while running my company. However, I was too scare to focus my entire life on this passion, and well, it stopped. My licence ran out. I moved.

This is my focus! I have one year to make it happen. I have decided to start from the beginning, I have scrapped my over crowded website, and here I am, putting my focus on each day with Natalie for 10 days! Lets ROCK!#10DBC #freedomplan

Jan 7, 2016

So This Is Christmas...

So this is Christmas and what have you done,
Another year over, a new one just begun.

And so this is Christmas, I hope you have fun, The near and the dear ones, the old and the young.
A very merry Christmas and a happy New Year
Let's hope it's a good one without any fears.
And so this is Christmas for weak and for strong,
The rich and the poor ones, the road is so long.
And so happy Christmas for black and for white
For the yellow and red ones let's stop all the fights.
A very merry Christmas and a happy New Year
Let's hope it's a good one without any fear.
War is over if you want it, war is over now.

Love John Lennon.  The war against Christmas in my mind is never really over every time this season comes around. The crunching of numbers to get gifts, having to haul out the deco's, having to have the house look just right for almost no guests, so you can bask in the light of the tree to feel the spirit of Christmas, its called faking it. This year, I decided not to break the bank, people would get gifts late- there would be no cards, I would not hustle around for someone else's purpose of Christmas. I also put a hold on my baking and crafting for the people less fortunate to just try to enjoy the days off work.
My Christmas started to become worse when my kids moved away, my dad died and my dog passed.
Over the years, I realized no one made a effort to really see me, and because this is a typical time when there's no work- I simply could not see distinct family either. This Christmas became more miserable every year. Who is in charge of our happiness? We are, so I tried to think about that just a little bit harder.

Id say its been about 5 years since I had a real Christmas with family and friends, nice gifts and great feasts. This year, I decided I would plan a massive family reunion of people in my life and people who always were there for me, and my bio-logical family and distance family- hoping that in two years, maybe over a week- we could all get to know each other again, Happy FestivaZ, mending of the grievances. Should be a shit show. Or not.
Lets see who shows face.

They say the way to freedom is to let go of the past and to forgive yourself before others. I hold a lot of shit. I have decided after  conversations with my two sons, that,  shit is going to stay in the pile of my past. I have forgiven a lot, I have taken the brunt of bullshit and blame and moved along proudly. I have settled for less most of my life and gave to others putting myself last. I have removed people from my life that have stowed the pain inside of me, hidden, to find I am still sad anyway. I have had many many angels to help me along in life.

I have given everything to my kids, my whole self- The reward I have is knowing there OK. This is hard, as we all want our kids to show us how much they love us and just be with us, sometimes we don't always get that. All I can hope for is that they want to see me more as they get older.  I have to let it go.  So this is it. I have been the best mom I knew how to be. Time for both of them to be men, and if they want me in their life I guess they can find me. I will just appear when the time arises and take what I get.

Sometimes you have no control over things, The only control I have is over my life and where I want to take it. I guess you see things when someone sees you for the first time-like really sees you. If someone cherishes everything about you, your dreams and hopes and even your downfalls- why would you not move in that direction?

Some of the great moments I can reflect on during Christmas, are coming home to my youngest son doing something crazy with the turkey, ( he's a chef) getting half corked and playing poker. Going over to my friends Bridges, for the second turkey dinner in all our one-see's, Heading out to amazing get together.s, like the Mexican and Indians house,  White trash party, Ugly sweater party and the James bond event. Seeing Bright Nights, going to the downtown of Vancouver to see the lights. Hitting Christmas Mass, a new church every year with my one of my favorite girls. Feeling fantastic delivering all the boxes of cookies to the group homes and stockings to east van homeless people. Lastly hiking up Cypress with my befriend on New Eve Day, and having coco and poutine. These memories I cherish.

I was given a few angels this year, to help me get threw it. Get threw the feeling of loss, because non of this happens anymore..and life changes.  Its very awesome I moved to a remote area in the lower mainland that gets SNOW, so I simply cant go deal with peoples own issues if the roads are bad. I live 5 blocks from my grandson which is awesome.

I think about what the next Christmas's will be like...Next year Ill be in Mexico, the year after that- I hope to have all the family in Mount Washington will join me, I will be 50. 50 is a big number, the last big party I had, I was 40.

The worst part of Christmas is setting resolutions-I don't do that horse crap any more, just sets a person up for failure. I do goal setting daily. Then I do a vision board. I have to say I have set myself up pretty great to reach some serious goals for 2016, because Ive worked on change all of 2015.

2015 was the time to face reality, and although it did not turn out the way I wanted it too, I had a pretty good year, I had some travel.  I met amazing people, I mean I meet amazing people all the time, but the new people in my life are of value, worth and mentors, leaders..

The best way to change coarse is to move in the direction of change makers. My best friend up North is a change maker, my teacher friends in Richmond, are change makers, my new friends in the states are change makers. These  people make you feel that it will all be OK.  This is similar how I feel when I am in Terrace, and now in Chilliwack, I feel the same way. A small community with tons of outreach and programs. You can knock on your neighbours door for help if need be. I never felt that in Vancouver.

I have decided that this year will be MY Amazing
GVix Signing out