May 31, 2015

Exploring...Week 3 Beginnings : 365 Days Rent Free, Suitcase Boarder


I decided to really take stock of this weekend to its fullest extent,  I needed some serious alone time and quiet time.



I spent Friday In Vancouver doing to some needed self care, I had allot of paperwork to deal with on my vehicle, toll fees, parking charges, all to renew the insurance-this took hours and hours, or so it seemed. I then went for wellness care, pedicure and foot massage, eyebrows nails..at the Happy Cheap Salon in the area we call Main street. Had a dinner at my sons restaurant. Was very lovely, but a long day.

 It was late when I headed back and I got pulled into the boarder for over a hour with long questions...Ugh

They asked very personal questions and I felt like I had done something wrong, I had nothing in my car, I work for Canadian federal government, back and forth everyday..I have stated the truth since I arrived..I don't get it. Sometimes they are just rude, like my friend forgot to give the guy the yellow slip and he leaned into her car and told her it required her to think. The guy on Friday, asked  the required questions, then asked why I just didn't stay in Canada, and i said because I am staying in Fern dale, then he said in a abrupt voice, I don't have time to talk to you your going in. It was 1030 there were no cars!
In the building I sat as the only person, to have them go through my car and decided to take a full hour. He says: "you are free to go" Like Ive just spent time in jail. So upsetting.



I was not going to let this upset me, and I went straight to bed at home to be up early to plan my exploring the next day. The choice was Fair haven Washington, A haunted little town with the ferry entrance to Alaska. The town takes pride on its Artisans. I read up on the brochure before I headed out. I was looking forward to the famous rosemary Bread with curd butter for 75 cents and Tony's famous Latte.


The town has many stories of it's haunting, and the buildings are very old. I sat on a patio for a few hours then walked all the way down to the water, went into all the art shops, most businesses had large murals on the walls , very kewl.

The plan was to go up to Washington University as well for a small trail run, however I had stuff to do.

After my little adventure I tackled the 6 bins of consignment clothing to go to the lovely owner at Labels. It was quite a procedure! I was happy to hear she can sell at least half of it, the rest went to donation.

 I wanted to also replace a pair of vintage "New Religion" jeans, I blew the ass out a week ago at a event and they were my Fav's, my plan was to find a pair of original "Hudson's" The rave here in the USA, well the girl went to the back and after trying on 6 pairs , she finally came out with newly distributed Hudson's! YAY, I paid a whooping 6.99 for 200 dollar jeans.

Labels runs many fashion shows to support women of abuse and after chatting for quite some time, the next one I may just be the make up artist for the event.




I then went home to tackle my room, I had to make a study area, as I have started the pre requisites for my teaching degree, if I go that route. My first trial lesson on language I got only 43%, I have to re do the entire chapter. It is very hard, harder than I thought.

Last stop of the evening, a great nightcap at Temple Lounge, always great house music, ambiance and great vibe. I have been here before many a time, and its a great place to find a quaint table and people watch. I walked down the block to find several sayings on the pavement. Walked by a punk band and a rap show, I love this area of Bellingham.





I ordered a Osa drink, tequila and a bunch of fruit, I find you can only have one drink here, the drinks are very good however they have 2 to 3 ounces in them.
I was surprised to see the waitress bring me another one, she said it was bought for me, I go to look in the direction and its a larger than life women- I held up the drink as a thanks..then i looked around and noticed there were quite a few gay women in the place tonight, some sort of social function?

I decided it was time to hit the rack, so I headed home for a well spent day :)

Some more kewl pics I leave with you, the Vietnamese Sandwich - supposed to be good.



Week Two of being a suitcase boarder, 365 days rent free

I absoluTly love this article I am posting, and this was very much tested with family members this week. The article is at the end of my blog post.

So it is week two of living as a suitcase boarder, and I was just starting to get used to the commute and my mum had a serious fall. The fall cause her entire face to be bruised and bloody, her mind confused. The fall caused a mini heart attack and her entire body to be bruised.



Everyone my age seems to be dealing with aging parents. For me this is the scariest thing that could possibly happen. I am not set up for it for one. I feel helpless most of the time. I also feel like I am finally free of responsibility except for myself, quite frankly I cannot care for anyone else. The week consisted of commuting way to much, trying to deal with the parking in downtown Vancouver, which was well over 100 bucks. How can they not have parking at the hospital? The congestion and fees all make me sick. My moms dog had to be walked twice a day, hospital visits, it was 16hr days and I lost it a few times. I felt like I had zero support and I do have three other sisters.

When you simply cannot deal, what do you do? I meant when you do not yourself have the strength to deal with everything, I did what I needed to do, and thank fully this time, my mom is home on the mend and getting better.

This one week of issues put a wrench in my life.

Many choices we make in life—ranging from what we do, to how we conduct ourselves, and who we interact with—are subject to prying questions and commentary from those around us. Family members, friends, and even total strangers, it often seems like everyone has an opinion on the things we do, no matter how small or insignificant those things might seem to us.

Sometimes people go so far as to ask you to explain yourself for the decisions or choices you make in your own life. You might feel obliged to respond, but some things are really no one else’s business and you don’t owe anyone an explanation at all for the following 15 things—though you think you do.

1. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR LIVING SITUATION.

Whether you are cohabiting with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, crashing in different motel rooms across the country, or living with your parents for a while when you are past your twenties, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for who you live with and why if you don’t want to. If you are fully aware of your living situation, then it means you have your own reasons for being in that situation that are nobody else’s business.

2. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR LIFE PRIORITIES.

You have your own ideas about the things that would make you and your loved ones truly comfortable and happy, which is your main priority. Since we are all unique individuals with different values, dreams and aspirations, your core priorities will be different from the next person’s. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you determine is your core priority in life. That is your personal business not other people’s business.

3. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN APOLOGY IF YOU ARE NOT SORRY.

If you don’t regret your actions, still think someone is wrong about something or don’t care much for their forgiveness, you don’t have to apologize. Many people are too quick to offer apologies and try to mend wounds that are not yet ready to be mended, which only serves to aggravate the wound and bring more problems. You really don’t have to apologize if you are not sorry or your side of the story hasn’t been heard.

4. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR REQUIRING ALONE TIME.

You might worry that you will come across as “rude,” “anti-social” or “aloof” when you cancel plans or other obligations because you need some time alone to reboot, unwind or just enjoy a good book by yourself. However, spending time alone is a completely normal, natural and necessary practice that more people should adopt. Take your alone time confidently because you don’t owe anybody an explanation for it.

5. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE YOUR AGREEMENT ON THEIR PERSONAL BELIEFS.

Just because someone shares their personal beliefs passionately doesn’t mean you have to sit there and nod in approval to everything they say. If you don’t share in their beliefs, it is unfair to yourself and to the other person to suppress your own thoughts and feelings and pretend you agree with them. It’s okay and better to disagree with them gracefully instead of bottling up your disapproval and frustrations.

6. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE A YES TO EVERYTHING THEY SAY.

You have a right to say no whenever there is no compelling reason to say yes. In fact, the most successful people in the world are those who have mastered the art of saying no to everything that is not a priority. Acknowledge other people’s kindness and be grateful for it, but don’t be afraid to politely decline anything that takes your focus away from your core goals and priorities. That’s how to get ahead.

7. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.

You might be slender, plump, tall, short, pretty, plain or whatever, but you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for why you look how you do. Your physical appearance is your own business and you are obligated only to yourself. Physical appearance shouldn’t determine your self-worth.



8. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR FOOD PREFERENCES.

There are certain foods that you just don’t like at all for different reasons, including taste preference and health issues. You don’t have to explain to anyone at all why you prefer certain foods. Your food preference is a matter that is best left to you. If anyone pesters you about why you are eating (or not eating) certain foods, shrug it off and just say you feel better eating (or not eating) those foods.

9. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR SEX LIFE.

As long as it happens with another consenting adult, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for where, when and how you conduct your sex life. You can wait for marriage, try one-night stands or experiment with same sex encounters to your heart’s pleasure and still not have to explain your sexual preferences to anybody.

10. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR CAREER OR PERSONAL LIFE CHOICES.

Sometimes circumstances force us to choose between work and “having a life.” The decision is not always easy and you might end up choosing work, not because you don’t care about your family or social life, but because you are working on something that will give you security in the future. Either way, you don’t owe others an explanation for choosing a career over your personal life (or vice versa) as long as you are confident about what you are doing and why you are doing it.

11. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR RELIGIOUS OR POLITICAL VIEWS.

Whether you are a Democrat, Republican, Catholic, Protestant or Muslim, that is your own personal choice. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you are what you are and believe what you believe. If someone can’t accept you for who you are, that is their personal dogma—not yours.

12. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR BEING SINGLE.

Whether you are single by design or by default that is nobody’s business. Being single is not a personality disorder. You are free to be in a relationship or not. Besides, you are far more than your relationship status and singlehood is just one of those social labels no one should really care about.

13. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE A DATE JUST BECAUSE THEY ASKED.

Someone might be nice, good looking and you may even be a little interested, but you don’t owe them a date just because they ask. If you feel deep down you don’t want to go on that date, then don’t. You may offer a reason for declining, but keep it brief and stick to your decision.

14. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR DECISION ABOUT MARRIAGE.

Whether or not you choose to get married and have kids or stay unmarried and be childfree, that is your own personal decision. Even your mom who is dying for grandchildren should understand that marriage is a personal decision and not suited for everyone. She should respect your decision about it no matter how hard it is to swallow.

15. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHOICES.

Sometimes people make inappropriate commentary about your romantic relationship(s), which is really none of their business. You might overhear comments like you are not the “perfect couple” or you should find someone else. However, you are not answerable to anyone but yourself for your relationship choices. Live your life and never, ever leave or stay in a relationship just because someone else says you have to. Make your own mistakes if you must, but learn from them always.